Ever since Master Magnum asked me about the Nuts and Bolts, I keep wondering what ones we have. None! I don’t know what he’s talking about. I have so few rules and rituals.
But then I noticed that when M. was playing with me yesterday, he makes sure my hands are open. No clinched fists allowed, ever, no matter what he’s doing. I kept noticing them, and what a mind fuck. Sometimes it’s really, really, really hard to open my hands, but when I do, it’s visible to us both how accepting I am of whatever he does.
He doesn’t have to remind me to open them very often because I just do it, but I notice them a lot.
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Well, I have never thought of that. I like that idea. It takes away a means for you to deal with what is happening and makes you remember to think on it. It is a good idea that I think I will steal. I will give you all the credit.
Thanks for sharing this piece of information.
he wants you to want and like it and if your hands are clenched that shows you are not embracing it and by not clenching your fist you show acceptance